Differentiate Between Love and Friendship

You've been close friends with a member of your preferred gender(s) for a while, and it has never been a problem. Until now. Suddenly, you're starting to doubt your feelings or to feel something new, and you can't help but ask yourself: is it love or friendship? Maybe other people have hinted that you and your friend are really in love. Maybe you've started to suspect that something is up when you got all jealous about yourfriend'snew girlfriend. Whatever your reason for coming here, it's time to dig deep and figure out how you and your friend really feel about each other.
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Part One of Three:
Analyzing What You Feel
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If you're just friends, then you feel genuinely happy if your friend is dating someone.This one is a dead giveaway. When your "friend" tells you he's met someone new, and that this person may bethe one,or just that this person is so amazing that you just have to drop everything and meet her, what is your first response? If you're truly happy for your friend and can't wait to meet the special person in his life, then you may be just friends.
*.Do your friend's significant others always like you a lot? If so, then this may also mean you're just friends. If they like you, then they don't see you as a threat.
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If you're in love, then you find a reason toneverbe happy with your friend's significant other.Have you found that every significant other your friend has ever introduced to you has been too stupid, ugly, cocky, annoying, frivolous, or just plain not good enough for him? Do you find yourself fighting feelings of jealously, even if your friend clearly doesn't like that new person so much? If so, then you may be falling in love. Of course you don't think anyone is good enough for your friend--except you, that is.
*.Think about it: does your friend just have a track record for dating horrible people? Or is it something more?
3
If you're just friends, then you feel 100% comfortable around your friend at all times.This is a sign of a true friend. Someone you can hang out with when you're recovering from a cold and sound like an asthmatic old man. Someone you can see without makeup--or without showering. A person you can burp or even fart in front of without apologizing. This may sound slightly gross, but it's true. Do you feel like this around your friend? If so, then you may be just friends.
*.Of course, when you find true love, you may eventually feel 100% comfortable around that person, too. But the courtship phase will most likely be filled with nervousness and uncertainty.
4
If you're in love, then your friend may make you feel a little nervous.If you're starting to really like your friend, then you may suddenly find yourself stuttering in the middle of normal conversation, or feeling like you swallowed a rock when you see your friend from across the room. This is perfectly normal. If you find yourself doubting what to say, wondering if you look stupid, or just feeling jittery and not completely like yourself, then it means that you may not be completely comfortable with your friend anymore...because you're falling in love.
*.If you find yourself suddenly caring how you looked or "came off' in front of your friend, then you may really be falling in love.
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If you're just friends, then you can go a few days without talking and you don't care.If you're just friends and you both fall off the radar for a few days, then it shouldn't keep you up at night. If you're not wondering what your friend is up to, wishing he was there, or worrying about whether or not he's safe, then you're probably friends. Friends, even good friends, can be out of touch for a few days or even a few weeks without worryingtoo muchabout what's going on, unless they're used to hanging out every single day.
*.This doesn't mean that you may not be a little hurt if you completely don't hear from your friend when you're used to talking a lot. But you shouldn't carethatmuch.