How to Understand Guys Who Want Long Term Relationships-judeblogspot

If you've finally gotten into a long-term relationship with a guy, you want to do your best to make that relationship last. Yet sometimes, understanding guys who want these long term relationships can be really confusing. You're bound to make some mistakes along the way, but with a little commitment and an open mind, you'll understand your man. You'll give yourself a chance to enjoy lasting love when you know a few keys to the mind of your man.
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Part One of Four:
Make Him Feel Masculine
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Partner with him to make decisions.No matter how much you feel that you shouldn't have to get the "OK" from your guy to do something or make decisions, it would be best to at least talk to him about it and ask him first. Men want to feel that they are doing things because they want their partners to be happy, not because they feel forced to do them. Use non-verbals like "the lip" and "big eyes" to persuade your man when words aren't working.
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Make your man feel big and strong.He loves to play the role of "knight in shining armor." While you may feel strong and independent without his help, allowing him to feel that he is taking care of you and protecting you will make him happy. Appreciate chivalrous gestures, like when he opens the door for you or lets you enter a room first.
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Let him take initiative.You will have an easier time getting your man to do something if you convince him that doing it is his idea in the first place. Use subtle clues that will gently push him to make the right decisions.
*.If you want him to fix your car, and you're tired of asking him directly, say something like, "I saw a broken-down car on the interstate today. You know, it makes me feel paranoid about mine."
*.You can also say, "I'm starting to think that I need a new car. How long will we have to save money for a down payment?" He's a lot more likely to fix your car because he's either a) motivated to protect you or b) concerned about spending too much money. [1]
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Respect his independence.Don't tell your friends (especially if he's standing right there) that you have him wrapped around your finger. Don't talk as though you can make him do anything or control him. The last thing your guy wants is to be emasculated in the eyes of your friends or family.
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Avoid dwelling on past relationships.Don't constantly talk about your ex or compare your current man to your ex. Also, don't date a new man if you're not really over your ex. Your new guy doesn't deserve to be blamed for someone else's actions or held to someone else's standard. Comparing him to your ex will make him feel like less of a man, so don't do it.